My father and I have nothing in common that extends beyond shared physical attributes. This said, we don’t get along. I stopped being daddy’s little princess the moment I learned to form my own opinions. Stop. We do have something in common! We are both opinionated and built with razor sharp tongues.
Lately I’m starting to realize my parents aren’t getting any younger. I want to spend more time with my family now than I ever have before. I mentioned to my mom I wanted to have a positive memory of my dad as an adult. She agreed this was important. So I went out on a limb and found something we could hopefully bond over.
My dad is a runner, and has been as long as I can remember. Years ago he and my brothers would run races together. This was exactly what I needed! I decided to call my dad and let him know I’d started training and would he 1) buy me running shoes for my birthday, and 2) run a race with me this spring.
This request had nothing to do with religion, school, family or anything we tend to fight over. This was just feet hitting the pavement, and yet somehow it turned out to be the usual friction between us–He was his typical abrasive self. I faked my way through the conversation and quickly hung up. Then I cried.
I’ll never have the kind of father I think I want. But I do have a father who loves me and would do anything in his power to protect me. Why isn’t that enough?